November 30, 2011

The Snyder Twins - Support a Family in Need

A dear friend of mine lost her sister, Michal, last week due to complications following a c-section. She gave birth to gorgeous twins - Reverie and Jackson - who are healthy and doing well. My heart breaks for my friend, her family and the children and husband Michal left behind.

Michal's husband, Jay, will be needing a lot of support raising twins on his own. The family has set up a very well done website for anyone who would like to help Jay and his new babies. Please visit - - for more information on how to donate.

Here are some words from the family:

Michal Lura Friedman lost her life on Friday, November 25 in New York City, due to complications from a c-section, shortly after delivering healthy twins, Jackson James and Reverie Vivian Snyder.

For those of you who never met her, Michal was a passionate, beautiful, talented woman who was thrilled to be pregnant with her first children. Many of you know "Michal the Girl" as a musician, but her greatest dream was to be a mother. For the past seven years, Michal and Jay had been using all of their resources to make this dream come true. Michal was widely loved and has left behind many friends, particularly in her Buddhist, musician and voice acting communities.

Many people have asked how they can help Michal's husband Jay and their children. This generosity is greatly appreciated and would provide tremendous relief. Although there will obviously be needs far into the future, we are trying to help with immediate expenses, which will add up so quickly with twins. Jay needs all the support he can get in order to provide the care that's needed for Jackson and Reverie.

To that end, a website has been set up where people can make donations:

We so much appreciate all of your love and support.

Please help this wonderful family out if you can. Thank you!
November 17, 2011

Stopping Night Nursing - The Journey - Nights 2 & 3

{This is what I stare at all night to see if we are making progress or not.}

You can find out how Night 1 went here.

Night 2

B woke up in his crib just a little after 10:00 p.m. and I was pretty tired, so I decided just to head to bed. This is a pretty typical evening for us. He fell asleep nursing and I fell asleep sometime in there too. He woke up for the first time around 12:45. I let him nurse for a minute, then unlatched expecting the sky-is-falling reaction I got the night before, but he only whined momentarily and went back to sleep with a few pats on the back. Lovely!

That continued to be the case for the rest of the night. The only problem was he woke up about every hour. I was able to nurse him briefly and then get him back down within 10 minutes or so. There was about 45 minutes in the 2:00 a.m. hour that contained a lot of flopping and crawling into me and the wall and pushing his face into everything in a sleepy search for his comfort. Kind of sad. But he didn't really cry too much. So I just tried to make sure he didn't really go anywhere and rubbed his back when I could.

I called open season on the nursing again at 5:30 a.m., instead of 6:00, because he tends to wake on the half hours and at that point I was ready to get a good uninterrupted hour in before the alarm clock went off.

Night 3

Hmm...what might convey the way I feel today? Oh yes - YAAWWWNNN. Last night was a bit of a challenge. He woke as usual about 12:30 and I got him back to sleep fairly quickly, but from 1:40 to 4:15 he was a mess. He cried and flopped about. He would fall asleep for just long enough to give me hope that this was it, he was officially down and I could un-tense my entire body. But then 3 or 5 minutes later he would throw his arm in the air and let out a wail of protest. We struggled for those hours.

When he fell asleep it was snuggled next to me for about an hour. Then at 5:15 I gave up and just gave him what he wanted. We both slept until 7:30 and than my wonderful husband came in and took B for breakfast while I had a blissful half an hour of babyless sleep.

Onward - stage 2.
November 16, 2011

Shopping Local Louisville - Pre Holiday

{Some goodies for the mama's to be}

I haven't started my holiday shopping yet, but my goal is to do as much as possible at local, independent retailers who sell locally made products. We owe some of our friends and family some baby and wedding gifts and so I decided to start with the local shopping early - it should really be an all the time type of deal.

I started with colorful burp cloths from The Diaper Fairy, who upcycles the cloth diapers she takes out of rotation by dying and bundling them. Then I headed over to Mama's Hip to pick up some of my favorite baby and mama products, a few of which happen to be made locally by Divine Creations and Peace of the Earth.

For our friends who recently got married we bought a lovely bottle of Kentucky bourbon - Blanton's and I stopped in at Greenhaus for some Cellar Door chocolates and some Argo Sons coffee - but alas they were out of coffee. So this one still needs a little something to finish it up. Any ideas?

I had so much fun going to all my favorite places and it felt really great to know that my money is going back into our community. Now to come up with locally sourced Christmas gifts for my family - there is so much to choose from. 
November 15, 2011

Stopping Night Nursing - The Journey - Night 1

So you all know that we co-sleep, but what you may not know, is that Beckett doesn't sleep through the night. He still wakes often, sometimes hourly, to nurse, or sometimes I think it's just to latch on for comfort and fall immediately back to sleep. This is pretty normal for co-sleeping babies - I mean imagine sleeping next to a bag of chocolate chip cookies - you'd probably snack a few times during the night. This worked for a long time, but B is getting bigger and he's turning into quit the floppy sleeper. For the last few months my husband and I have not been getting quality sleep. What to do?

Well I came across a great blog, The Leaky Boob, at the exact time the woman who writes the blog was going through this same thing, although I think she toughed it out longer than I have and with more children. She had good results with a method she tried and it seemed to be along the same parenting guidelines H and I are comfortable with. The program is from Dr. Jay Gordon's website. I recommend reading the entire thing if you are considering this, but here is a little bit about part 1 of the plan.

He recommends this for babies over a year old, not infants. This is the plan for the first 3 nights.

"At any time before 11 p.m. (including 10:58) nurse to sleep, cuddle and nurse when he wakes up and nurse him back to sleep, but stop offering nursing to sleep as the solution to waking after 11 p.m.. Instead…..

When your baby awakens at midnight or any other time after 11 p.m., hug him, nurse him for a short time but make sure he does not fall asleep on the breast and put him down awake. Rub and pat and cuddle a little until he falls asleep but don’t put him back on the breast (or give him a bottle if that’s what you’ve been doing). He must fall asleep with your comfort beside him, but not having to nurse to feel comforted enough to drift off.

Now, he will tell you that he is angry and intensely dislikes this new routine. I believe him. He will also try to tell you that he’s scared. I believe he’s angry, but a baby who’s had hundreds of nights in a row of cuddling is not scared of falling asleep with your hand on his back and your voice in his ear. Angry, yes. Scared, no, not really.

During these first three nights, repeat this pattern only after he has slept. He might sleep for fifteen minutes or he might sleep for four hours, but he has to go to sleep and reawaken to get cuddled and fed again."

So I began this process last night. Hillary decided to sleep in another room, so at least one of us was rested for the day. Of course, B must have known I was up to something because he slept from 8 to 11:30 in his crib - which he never does. He has some bad diaper rash and I changed his diaper when he woke, so he was very upset. So I cheated a little and nursed him to sleep at 11:30.

He woke at 1:15 a.m. and I nursed him for a few minutes, unlatched him and snuggled him in tight. He did not like this and as predicted proceeded to thrash around, scream, sob and press his face into me for the next 30 minutes. My will started to give a little around the 20 minute mark, but I held strong and did not let him nurse. I patted, I shushed, I sang, I squeezed, I kissed. Finally he flopped down on his face with his butt in the air and went to sleep. I have never been so relieved.

At 3:30 and 4:30 he woke. Again I nursed for a few minutes, then unlatched. He protested, but nothing like before. He was back asleep within 10 minutes.

At 5:30 he woke again and I was tired. I figured it was close enough to 6:00 and just let him nurse. He fell back asleep and we both slept through the alarm until almost 8:00. So no shower for me before work. At least it's a home office.

I am pleased with the results. It could have been worse. We'll see what happens tonight. I will try to stick to the rules this time.